How do I ask questions only to guests who decline?
Show certain RSVP questions only to guests who can't make it to the wedding, so you can collect follow-up details without bothering attending guests.
Plan requirement: Standard or Pro plan
Short answer: Set the question's Display this question to dropdown to Guests not attending. Only guests who decline will see the question.
Why you'd want this
Some questions are only relevant for guests who can't come — things like livestream signup, a farewell message, an address to mail a keepsake, or even a simple "We'll miss you, anything you'd like us to know?" Showing these to attending guests would be confusing.
How to set it up
Go to RSVP > Questions
Click the question you want to limit (or add a new one)
Find the Display this question to dropdown
Pick Guests not attending
Leave the event dropdown on Our wedding (main event) unless you specifically want the question tied to a single event
Click Save changes
The question will now only show up for guests who select "Not attending" on their RSVP.
What guests see
Guests who select "Not attending" - They see the question as part of their declined-RSVP flow.
Guests who select "Attending" - They never see the question.
Guests who haven't responded - They'll see the question only if they end up declining.
Example: livestream signup for guests who can't come
Question: "Would you like us to email you a link to watch the ceremony live?"
Display this question to: Guests not attending
Only guests who decline will see this question, so you collect livestream emails from exactly the right people without bothering attending guests.
Example: farewell message
Question: "We'll miss you! Is there anything you'd like us to share with you after the big day?"
Display this question to: Guests not attending
A gentle note for guests who can't make it. Attending guests are spared the slightly melancholy tone.
Tips
Keep the tone warm. Questions for declined guests should feel understanding, not guilt-inducing.
Use "Long text" or "Multiple choice." Open-ended text fields work great for farewell messages. Multiple choice works for things like livestream signup ("Yes, send me a link" / "No thanks").
Combine with "Guests invited to" for all-audience questions. If you want the same info from everyone (like a mailing address), use the Guests invited to audience instead of duplicating the question.