Getting permission to send wedding text messages
Wedding text messages are coming to WedSites. Before the feature arrives, here's how to start gathering your guests' permission the right way.
Plan requirement: Standard or Pro plan
Short answer: You'll need each guest's clear permission before you can text them about your wedding. Ask now, keep a note of who says yes, and you'll be ready to send the moment the feature goes live.
Coming soon. Sending wedding text messages through WedSites isn't available yet — we're building it. This guide covers how to prepare so you're ready on day one. For now, you can still share your website or RSVP links by text manually (see Can I send invitations via WhatsApp or text message?).
Why permission matters
Texting is personal, and the rules around it are stricter than email. When the feature launches, you'll need each guest's permission before sending them wedding text messages through WedSites.
A few things to keep in mind:
Having someone's number isn't permission. Adding a guest to your list, or knowing their mobile number, doesn't mean they've agreed to be texted.
Guests can say no and still come. Declining texts has no effect on their invitation or RSVP — they can still attend and respond as normal, just by email or another method.
This is for wedding messages only. Permission to send wedding updates doesn't cover anything promotional or marketing-related.
How to ask
The easiest way is to ask in person or on a call. Keep it natural, but make sure you cover the essentials. Here's a script you can adapt — swap in your own details where you see the brackets:
"We'd love to text you about our wedding through WedSites at [guest's mobile number] — things like our invitation, RSVP reminders, and any schedule or venue changes. How often we text depends on our plans, and message and data rates may apply. You'll be able to reply STOP anytime to opt out, or HELP for help. The terms are at https://wedsites.com/terms and the privacy policy at https://wedsites.com/privacy. Is it okay to text you? Just a yes or no is perfect."
Wait for a clear "yes" before you treat a guest as having agreed. A maybe, a shrug, or silence isn't a yes.
What to note down
For each guest who says yes, keep a simple record of:
Their mobile number
When they gave permission
How you asked (for example, in person, by phone, or over a message)
A note in a spreadsheet or on their guest entry is enough. You'll draw on it when the feature launches, and you'll want it if a guest ever asks how you got their details.
When the feature launches
Once wedding text messages are available, you'll confirm permission for each recipient on the sending screen. Only confirm it for guests who have actually agreed — never tick it just to get a message out faster.
The first time a guest is enrolled, they'll receive a short confirmation so they know what they've signed up for. The wording will be along these lines:
"WedSites: You're signed up for wedding texts from [couple's names], including RSVP reminders and event updates. Message frequency varies. Msg & data rates may apply. Reply STOP to opt out or HELP for help."
This message confirms permission you've already obtained — it isn't a substitute for asking. You'll still need a clear yes first.
Respecting a no — and a later stop
If a guest says no, don't plan to text them. Reach them by email or another way instead.
If a guest ever asks you to stop (or replies STOP once texting is live), that's the end of it — honour it right away.
Use permission only for messages about your wedding. Anything promotional needs its own separate, explicit consent — verbal wedding permission doesn't cover it.
Tips
A quick ask goes a long way. Most guests are happy to get wedding texts once you explain what they're for.
Lead with email. Texts will work best for reminders and day-of updates alongside your email invitations.
Keep your note current. If someone changes their mind, update your record so they don't get texted by mistake.